小谈爱情

记得以前做过一个蛮准的心理测验，大概是这样的。。

如果有一颗生蛋，你会把它放在哪里？那么熟蛋呢？

我的答案是：生蛋-水里 ， 熟蛋-口袋里

生蛋其实代表寻找爱情，放在水里就是随缘的意思。

确实我对爱情真的有着随缘的看法，不然从18岁开始每年的愿望都是想要恋爱可是却依然没有行动~

至于熟蛋呢那就代表找到爱情之后，放在口袋里就是会好好守护珍惜的意思。

找到后最重要的是珍惜认真的去经营，因为觉得没有那个时间玩弄感情 也没有那个精力去做些损人不利己的事情。

爱情一到手就不想把它放开 还没得知结果之前绝对不会放弃

其实这就与人生、做研究一样

一旦选择了这条路就不可以放弃 因为这一秒你放弃或许成功就是下一秒的事

还有一项就是没刻苦经过磨炼就随便放弃 这只会养成怕挫折胆怯 没上进心的坏习惯

异地恋或许会很煎熬 毕竟见面陪伴在身旁的机会少 不过未来原本就是个未知数

那为何不一试呢？反正每个人的爱情故事是不一样的

所以应该珍惜当今 因为现今可以操控未来

遗失 遗憾 是人生最大的悲剧

Long distance relationship is one of the best relationships.
It's really sweet to see two patient hearts that are willing to wait because they think that everything is worth it anyway.
Yes it's hard not being together
physically,
you cannot kiss and hug each other,

But still, you know that one day you will~ t hold each other's
hand,
you cannot kiss and hug
each other,
but still,
you know that one day you will.

*

没有恋爱经验的我，之前的世界都是一板一眼，对就对、错就错，没有灰色地带。

所以面对人 往往都不太注意，没那么细腻。

因此这种过去的性格也把它带过来了。。

或许我不会说甜言蜜语 也不会撒娇  有时也会冷淡 不过这并不代表我不爱

就如我对父母一样 与他们相处了24年，真的很爱他们

不过却始终没有与他们说过一句我爱你 或者拥抱过他们

正因为不太会表达 所以选择默默付出

还有天蝎是出了名的占有欲no.1 ，吃醋no.1的星座

爱情原本就是需要信任

因此我选择给对方自由 不想绑得死死的

不期望什么 是希望对方每天来个问候 偶尔给点惊喜就可以了~

*

真正的爱情要懂得珍惜

没有谁和谁是天生就注定在一起的

能真心遇见心爱的人是件幸福的事

为何不紧紧握着他的手呢？

爱不是轰轰烈烈的誓言

而是平平淡淡的陪伴

*

 

 

Plato on love and marriage

Saw this thoughts long time ago and still I’m very fond of this idea.

One day, Plato asked his teacher, “What is love? How can I find it?”

The teacher answered, “There’s a large wheat field in front. Walk there without turning back, and take just one leaf. If you can find one leaf that you think is extraordinary, it means you have found love.”

So Plato walked…and not long after that, he came back empty-handed.

The teacher asked him, “Why, you don’t bring any leaf?”

Plato said, “I can only bring just one leaf and when I walked through the wheat field I can’t turn my back. Actually I have found one extraordinary leaf, but I don’t know whether there’s any other leaf more extraordinary, so I didn’t take that leaf. When I walked further, I realized that the leaves I found are not as extraordinary compared to the leaf I’ve found earlier in my walk. In the end, I didn’t take any single leaf.”

Then the teacher told him, “So…that is love.”

Another day, Plato asked his teacher again, “What is marriage? How can I find it?”

The teacher answered, “There is a forest in front. Please walk there and don’t look back. You can only cut one tree, and cut the one that you think is the highest. That is when you find marriage.”

Plato walks there, and he came back not long after bringing one tree. The tree, however, is not a very good tree and not a very tall one, either. It’s just an ordinary tree.

The teacher asked him, “Why did you cut that kind of tree?”

Plato answered, “Because from my previous experience, after walking through the wheat field, I came back with nothing. So this time, when I saw this tree which I think is not so bad, I decided to cut it and bring it here. I don’t want to lose another chance to get it.”

And the teacher said, “Well …that is marriage.”

 

And here’s someone’s thought and I couldn’t agree with her more~

The more you look for love, you will find nothing. Love is in your heart, when you can control your desire and your hope to find something better. When you have endless hope and wish of love, you will only get emptiness…because you won’t get anything and time cannot be turned back. Accept love for what it is.

Marriage is a continuation of love. It’s a process of having chances, and you choose the best option among all the alternatives. If you want to have a perfect match and a perfect marriage, you will only waste your time, because there is no perfect marriage.

 Of course last but not least,

Appreciate what you have and put effort to make it works~

Nothing is perfect unless you strive to work it out!!

笑容、步行、快乐泉源

其实我有一个很奇怪的想法 就是想拍下路人的笑容

记得有天早上经过人山人海的市场时 有了这个念头

当时仔细观察在行走的路人 其实还蛮多人脸上都挂着笑容呢

这么说槟城人其实还蛮快乐的

因为自己一个人步行时 你的面容其实就正在显示 你当时的思绪

没有人会特地留意你 所以就没必要做作造假

那些挂着笑容的路人 或许正在想待会儿要准备什么食物给家人吃呢？ 又或者到哪里哪里买小东西给家里的小宝贝 他一点会很开心的！

这些小思绪反映在他们脸上 而这快乐也无意间的传给了 与他们擦肩而过的我

其实快乐可以很简单

一点小动作 一个小思绪 嘴角往上扬 这就成了快乐

只是有时候我们把一切看得太重 特别是未知数的未来

往往就这样忘记了当下可以享有快乐的权利

那我步行时的面容呢？

多数面无表情 埋头看地 思考吧 最近都是如此的说~

不过应该说这面容因地方而异吧

我特别享受好天气时 在大学步行的时刻 看看周围的花草 天空 回想以前的时光

又或者是夜晚 完成实验后 去拿车时 抬头仰望 那满天星星的夜空 就如璀璨般美丽

那熟悉的猎人座 那时圆时缺的月亮 微微的风 真的好舒服

或许我的快乐泉源是大自然也说不定~

那你们呢？

音楽と記憶

ある歌を聴くと、ある記憶を思い出しました。そう言う経験がありますか。私ならあるよ～

中学２年生の時、毎週の火曜日普段より早くて、学校に到着しました。良い仲間イサベールとダイアナと一緒に学校でピアノを弾いためから。皆は順番で自分の好きの歌や好きな人と一緒にいる時の歌を弾きました。

えっ？！好きな人？嘘！そんな時皆はまだ恋をしていませんよ～

確かにそうだね～

その時、私たちが好きな人は俳優か、漫画の人物でした。そして、そういう人物と一緒にいるのシーンを想像して、ピアノを弾きました。馬鹿でしたが、面白かったわよ～

当時、わたしが好きなのはTom Felton。そしてイサベールは Daniel Radcliffe、ダイアナは Rupert Grintでした。全部は映画「ハリーポッター」の俳優ですよね～＾＾

私たちは「Close to you、至少还有你、Mariage d'amour、Voyage 、Reason」と言う曲を弾きました。今までも、そんな曲を聴くと、あの時の嬉しい記憶を思い出しました。懐かしいなぁ～

旅行の時、私は観光しながら、音楽を聴く事が大好きです。昔も観光地と音楽のブログを書きました。私は観光したの国はきっと一首その国にいる時の記憶歌があります。三年前、日本に観光しに行きました。その時の歌は、徳永英明の「時の流れに身を任せ」と安全時代の「夢のつづき」でした。「時の流れに身を任せ」は飛行機の中で聞いている歌でした。そして、「夢のつづき」は夜一人で、駅からマンションまでの帰り道で聞いている歌でした。「あなたがいるから　いつも暖かいから　何より優しく　暮らしたい。。」聞くと、暖かくなる、一人の帰り道もそういう寂しくなった。

もちろん、悲しい時も音楽を繋がっています。７年前の「Grace とParrot」、そして３年前の 「always、崇拜、over」。。

音楽が大好きです。そして、音楽も私の人生です。悲しい時や、嬉しいときや、どんな時も音楽と一緒にいて、生きている。 音楽がある世界で生きるのはとても幸せです～

男二情

想起来有点奇怪，最近看戏的趋势都是喜欢配角比较多。都不在乎男主了呢~

或许应该是男二的出场率少，可是每次出现却扣人心弦吧~

从一支梅石厚哥雪地夜里默默守候女主恩彩的一幕，到济众院里白道杨求婚被女主拒然后信件飘下水的那一幕，再到拥抱太阳的月亮里的杨成君，马医的圣夏等等。。

这些都是经典，典型的悲情男二。

不过却也换来了我的喜爱~

或许对我来说在背后默默守候的那种爱情才是最美丽的吧~

“我不期望什么，只喜欢可以与她活在同一片天空，呼吸同样的空气，看着她平安幸福的，这就满足了。。”

好感人呢，不过这样不会很虐吗？？因为分明就不会有结果的嘛~

其实最近悲情女二的趋势也开始了呢~ 同样的也是惹人喜爱。。

只是这种悲情男二女二是得不到幸福的。。

现实来说是痴情，是愚蠢。。

因为就算你如何守候，如何爱，女主男主们都不会往你一眼。。

毕竟你的肋骨不属于她，她的不属于你。。

这不是上天注定的组合。。

所以别当悲情男二女二吧~~

不过在剧里我还是被他们给深深吸引了~

大爱默默守候的爱情~~

大爱悲情男二~

The Lizard

Although I don’t have much inspiration to write anything recently due to the torpidity of mental state, but I would like to share a trivia incident that happened in my small sized family.

The lizard, the cold blooded four legs alligator like household pests. How many of you hate this little havoc? Well my whole family members especially my mom and granny are definitely one of them. Just why they hate them? Perhaps their feces had dirtied our home or maybe it’s due to their appearance had created a disharmony environment to our lovely home. Who knows? But we hate them just the way they are!

So when this pest whether it’s small or big in size appear, our whole household members gone crazy. It turned into some sort of war between the intellectual human begins and the tiny nX smaller agile little fellow. Cynically, usually the ever genius mankind will lose to this less brainy fella.

Just like yesterday, mom found a white around 10cm long lizard behind a painting in the house. Three of us (mom, dad and I) were setting a trap to lure this stupid thing out and kill it. Yet, it fooled us, move speedily and gone with the wind. Ta-ta!! Leaving us a house full of mess and the ever ‘pleasant and memorial’ smells of ‘eau de toilet’ Sheildtocks the pest repellant!

Well to state a point, the lizards in my household definitely have higher IQ than the other family members of them. First, they are very fast and agile. And the most important thing is that the sound they made was way much different with the ordinary one. The sound is a more subtle type, you wouldn’t notice without paying much attention to it. No more ‘tsk tsk tsk’ sound in my house, but still these nasty fellows exist! So lizards do have their own evolution!

Now come to the part of why these fellows wanted to get into my house so much?  Is to challenge themselves, then. The tougher the obstacles the smarter and strongly I will be! If human nowadays were to have these little fellows’ spirit then it would be a greater and efficient world wouldn’t it? Well don’t talk of other human but I, if I would have the lizards’ spirit then I guess I can finish and solve all those obstacles given to be without a hint of being defeated and regret!  

So let’s do the lizards’ spirit!!

距爱

大年初四没事做。爸妈都去开工大吉了，剩下自己一个人蛇在家里。无聊的看见自己桌上的两个Coin boxes。那是我去年大概10月在教堂yard sales时以RM2买的。虽然款式比较久了，不过挺可爱一下~

乍看下那不就是距恋的小熊情侣吗？

想想其实身边也有蛮多距恋的情侣呢。大概有5对左右吧 [交友范围小= =] 从靠近的Penang-KL, 到 Penang-Singapore, Penang-Brunei 到最远的Penang-Australia。。

真的很佩服这些情侣们呢，距爱也能经营得这么好。

毕竟比起普通的恋情，距爱更为受煎熬。

更为没有安全感，双方相隔两地，不能时常见面，发生了什么事也不知道。。

有点像走在钢丝线上，步步惊心。。

不过若对彼此有信心Faith,企望 Hope and 爱Love，这岂是完美的爱情了。

恋情不受远距离打倒，那还有什么会阻扰这爱呢？

 

明天就是情人节了，在此早祝这些距恋情侣们Happy Valentine’s Day~

没情人的家伙[me XD]就Forever Alone吧~ 哈哈！！

不管有没有情人，这一天都充满爱的度过吧^^